Meeting your soon- to-be in-laws for the first time is stressful. There is always a voice in your head that says, “What if they don’t like me?” which is completely understandable- because after the marriage, these relative strangers become a part of the family and first impressions sometimes are difficult to change. Here are things to keep in mind so you start this relationship on the right note.
1) Be Curious
Be curious to know more about your significant other’s family. Ask your partner about his/ her family, their likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. before you decide to meet them. Also, make a mental note about the in-law’s respective preferences before the meeting. This will take you a step closer to being well acquainted with them.
2) Know your etiquettes
Offering genuine compliments shows that you are paying attention to the things they love. Compliments work wonders to strengthen bonds so be generous with them but be wary of overdoing it. Make sure to speak up, your in-laws will appreciate you taking the initiative in the conversation. Lastly, dress for the occasion. It shows that you care, this is important to you and remember that THIS is your chance to make a good first impression, so look polished and pulled together.
3) Have a welcoming attitude
Reach out to your in-laws, be respectful, engage them, and try to create a meaningful relationship. Make sure to keep your reservations to a minimum. Be mindful of the fact that, you are building a foundation for a relationship and not just going through a phase of life.
4) Be Accommodating
Be open to the suggestions, opinions, views, and thoughts of your in-laws and make them feel at ease. Be considerate enough to see that this occasion might be as stressful for them as it is for you.
5) Be Thoughtful
Gifts can be a good way to start conversations. Taking the effort to give a personalised gift is always recognised and will make your in laws feel special. This will certainly put you in a good place with them.
6) Offer to help
If you've been invited to their place then from time to time, volunteer to help. You can also contribute in small ways like helping with setting up the table for a meal or even offering to prepare a dish.
7) Prepare the basic plan with your fiancé first
When making plans for the wedding, figure a few things that you get the parents’ input on. Once basic plans are formed, try to find out what is important to your parents and in-laws, and see if you can comfortably incorporate their wishes into your wedding.
How things unfold between you and your in-laws after this first meeting will remain a mystery but going into your first meeting with honest intentions is the most important step to create a lasting relationship and we wish you the best!